What is Ideal Pillow Talk?

This content was created by the National Sleep Foundation

In today’s busy world, finding quality time to spend with your significant other can be tricky, and for some couples, it may seem that bedtime is the only moment of the day that they’re able to spend alone together. That’s why it’s especially important to cherish pillow talk. Not only can this one-on-one time improve your relationship, but it can also help your sleep—as long as you discuss the right topics. Enhance your pillow talk time with these tips.

Keep Tech Out.

The bedroom should be limited to sex, sleep, and pillow talk. Not only can the blue light emitted from cellphones, tablets, and laptops hurt the quality of your sleep, but the tech can also distract you from the time that you should be spending together talking.

Keep the Convo Light.

This isn’t the time to discuss hot-button topics (like finances or how your in-laws are driving you nuts). Your emotions will heighten if you think negative thoughts, which will interfere with your ability to fall into a deep sleep. Instead, keep the pillow talk situated around more neutral subjects, such as what you did that day.

Agree to Disagree.

If a conflict does arise during your pillow talk time (and it’s sure to happen from time to time), agree to table the discussion for the next day. It’s unlikely that you’ll resolve a fight when you’re both sleepy. Keep in mind that you're not going to be the best problem solver when you're tired.  You also won't be able to read your partner’s emotions as well as when you're fully alert, which can lead to an even bigger conflict.

Accept Silence.

Some days you might not have much to talk about, and that’s okay. But even just laying next to each other and cuddling in silence can help your sleep. That’s because physical contact provides a sense of safety and security, and this soothing support can help send you off to dreamland.