Sleeping Separately from Your Partner

This content was created by the National Sleep Foundation

Is there a return in popularity of the two-bed marriage?

In between antics on their I Love Lucy television show, Lucy and Desi showed off a somewhat strange sleeping arrangement for a married couple: They slept in separate beds. While this set-up doesn’t seem normal, it might not be as strange as you think. These days, about 25 percent of married people or those who live with a significant other sleep in separate beds. (And 10 percent are actually catching their zzz’s in separate rooms!) Why? Well, to sleep better!

About 26 percent of people say that they get a more restful night’s sleep when they sleep alone, compared with nights when they share their bed with their partner. But that statistic is skewed heavily towards women. It’s known that men are likelier to be snorers than women, so it’s often the woman who gets fed up with the noise and moves to a different bed or room.

While all of this cuddle-free sleeping sounds like it would hurt a relationship, the opposite is actually true. When your partner keeps you from sleeping due to tossing and turning or noisy snoring, you’ll likely feel irritable and resentful toward him or her. And as a result, it’s less likely that you’ll want to be sexually intimate with your partner when all you are dreaming about is sleep.

Sure, the majority of couples still share a bed every night, but if you prefer to sleep soundly and separately, rest easy that you aren’t doing any lasting harm to your relationship. The key is to remember to stay intimate—emotionally and physically—even if the actual sleeping is done solo.

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